If you show all signs of loving someone, how can you figure out why you love someone? How do you know if it's just in your head, how they make you feel, their looks, how their hair is, or personality? And what justifies the right reasons of loving someone?
I'm tempted to say that when it comes to love, all is mystery, and leave it at that. But that would be a little too quick, perhaps. You ask several questions, so I will try to reply to them one-by-one. (1) If you show all signs of loving someone, you probably do. However, we make a distinction between infatuation and real love, and so the real test of which of these it is will be a matter of time. Infatuation dies pretty quickly, whereas love is more durable. (2) A good part of love probably really is "just in your head," or, more likely, in your biochemistry more broadly. When we are engaged in this way, there are very significant differences in cognition, sensation, emotion, and all of the neurological and endocrinological systems towhich these are related. It certainly isn't love if it doesn't change you in lots of ways! (3) You also want to know what it is about your beloved that brings out these reactions in you. The answer seems to be that it is lots of things . ...
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