Is friendship necessary for romantic love? Is sexual attraction necessary for romantic love?

Was I morally correct in asking my (now) ex-wife to delay the divorce which she had initiated, in order to retain her much needed health insurance under my employer, until she had obtained such on her own? Or was she correct in her assertion that it would have been morally incorrect for her remain married to me, regardless of her health needs, due to the example shown to our children when she was meeting and dating others?

Does love exist, or is it really love, without some amount of selfishness? Put it another way, if you want the best for someone and care about someone, but get no pleasure from simply knowing them, is it 'love', yet something like pity or hypocrisy? Considering that that is how it is, does it anyway apply to all sorts of loving; is mother's love, for example, an exception? Or should we say that though a mother always thinks of her children first, it is also selfish, because by being a mother she is able to express that side of herself?

What is virtuous about a partnership in marriage (not necessarily the legal construct - the idea of committing to a life together)? What characterizes what is virtuous in leaving such a partnership (even) when the partners love each other and want one another to flourish but one partner doesn't see the partnership as a whole flourishing? To put it another way: How is it that most of the parts of such a partnership can individually appear to be so esteemable, and even to outweigh the less esteemable parts, and yet the whole be judged lacking?

If you don't love yourself, can you love others?

Is it logically possible to consider yourself in love with someone after a short duration of time? Say, three weeks? Or is this too short of a time period to be able to determine something of such great importance? Ashley S.

If someone leaves you, can they still love you; and if not, can you stop loving someone or would that mean you never loved them at all? Tyler

How can a person love another without knowing him/her personally?

Given the complexity of human relations, given the death of "till death do us part" and given the near-acceptance of a normal human acquiring more than one partner during his/her lifetime, we have entered an age where the phrase "I love you" has been devalued from the "I love you, for ever and ever" of our forefathers to the "I love you at the moment" of today. My question therefore is: Is it possible to love two people at once?

My girlfriend has an eating disorder. Is it morally wrong to use her love for me in order to get her to seek help (something she doesn't want to do)?