Question I am a junior in high school and am already well into the college process. I would consider myself to be smarter than average, but will not hesitate to admit that I am not of the most elite caliber (some would say I am more 'street smart' than 'book smart'). During the college process I am looking at schools that would be considered tremendous stretches for my academic profile, however, connections I have at these schools may make up for this gap and allow me to coast on in. Should I feel guilty that I am receiving all of this help? What if I really do like the schools that are outside my profile? The whole point is to end up at the best school you possible can, right? Is there a difference between my possible best and the possible best of myself and connections combined?

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June 8, 2010

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Interesting situation! The Roman philosopher and statesman Seneca tells us that the most important thing we have is time, and the most important decision we will make in life is how to spend our time and with whom. I suggest that you may want to go to that school which (after you have completed four years) you can look back upon with proper pride (proper pride as opposed to vanity or egoism). Insofar as skills and adventures (intellectual and otherwise) often involve risk-taking and moving against the line of the least resistance (in other words, not taking the easy route), I suspect it would be better to opt for the college or university community that would most challenge you. Where I teach, there is a tremendous (growing) stress on students discovering their vocation. A vocation is not just a job, but a sense of calling or having a goal of pursuing a fulfilling profession. I would recommend finding a college or university which takes vocation seriously.

Hm, are you asking an ethical question here? (ie it might be wrong to use your 'connections' to get into a 'better' school than you 'deserve'? I put all that in scare quotes because I think a lot of work would have to go into posing that question clearly, as an ethical question.) Or are you really asking the more practical question, "what would be best for me overall"? Re: the latter, I'd say get into the "best" school you can legitimately (ie ethically) get into -- for being surrounded by very bright people, not only faculty but especially your peers, would stretch you as far as you are capable of being stretched ... Of course you can get an excellent education in lots of different places, esp. if you are motivated and dedicated and go out to acquire it yourself -- but unless you are the type to be cowed by very accomplished peers, to feel diminished by them, then you ought to surround yourself with the best you can in order to become the best you can ....