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"I love you but I am not in love with you". Sometimes I understand what this means, other times it doesn't make any sense. Can you love someone and not be in love with them? If so, what does this "I love you" mean?
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January 25, 2009

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Oliver Leaman
January 30, 2009 (changed January 30, 2009) Permalink

I have always thought it meant that I used to love you but I still have vestiges of my earlier feelings for you, which are now thoroughly diminished. It sort of acknowledges that once one has been in love with someone it is difficult to reduce the relationship to mere friendship (much easier to change it to hate!).

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