Question I am contemplating having children, yet can think of no good reason to have them. That is, all reasons seem to be selfish reasons. It seems impossible to do something for a person that doesn't exist yet. Are there any good reasons to have children that aren't selfish?

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November 4, 2005

Comments

I think some philosophers would argue that there are good reasons not to have children, given population pressures. But I am inclined to take a rather different tack here, by asking you why you seem to suppose that self-interest is the same as the vice of selfishness. One of the things I found extraordinary in my own experience of having children was how much love I found I was capable of having and sharing. Did that bring value to my own life? Most certainly it did! Did it bring value to the lives of others? I think (and hope) so. Did I become a better person, all things considered? I think (and hope) so. And if I am doing a good job with my children (as I hope I am), then everyone with whom they come into contact is potentially better off. Plainly, not all parents are good people, and parenting does not always improve those who do it. But if you desire to have children, I think that is at least one indication that you could do something that is valuable not just for yourself but for many others, including not just the child(ren) you bring into being. Don't understimate the power of love, especially if the one who has it is also ethically conscientious!