When a writer is giving advice on writing and they are saying what not to do and what you should do, then do you take the advice or kind of find your own groove?

The short answer is: find your own groove. It's a bit of a false alternative, however. That's because finding your own groove often takes some experiment, and experimentation is often well guided by the advice of others. So, my advice (!), since you asked, is to weigh thoughtfully the advice of others whose writing you admire, and try out what they suggest. Ultimately, you have to find your own authentic voice, but others can help you make that discovery.

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